Imagine a world where you didn’t have to rely on old beliefs or past experiences to move forward.
Where every choice, every step, could be approached with fresh eyes—eyes that haven’t yet been clouded by doubt, fear, or insecurity.
This is the kind of vision I believe we’re all capable of tapping into, but it requires intentionality.
We have to be willing to let go of the past lens through which we’ve been seeing the world and open ourselves up to the possibility of something new.
When I first began coaching, I noticed a common theme among the women I worked with: many were trying to move forward, but their vision was clouded by old patterns, self-doubt, and fears about things not working out the way they’d hoped.
They weren’t seeing clearly.
And that’s when the magic happens—when we decide to shift our perspective, even just a little. By allowing ourselves to step back and look at our lives through a new lens, we can uncover strengths, opportunities, and desires we didn’t even know existed.
This is exactly what I want to share with you through my new podcast, Her New Lens.
It’s all about shifting the way we view our lives, especially in times of transition.
When we embrace change, even the most challenging ones, with a fresh perspective, we open ourselves to new possibilities. And just like a woman stepping into motherhood, you, too, can see the world around you through an empowered, expansive lens.
Together, we’ll explore how small shifts in perspective can lead to life-changing growth and clarity.
To share an example of how this can work, here is something I wrote a few years ago:
A Letter to Expectant Mothers (Or anyone seeking to become someone new):
There is a stack of gifts next to her, all beautifully wrapped. On top of the pile of gifts is a small white envelope – a letter to an expectant mother.
The new mother-to-be sits quietly, her cheeks pink and glowing. But as she turns away for a moment to check her phone, you see a quick flash of nervous energy. She opens the envelope.
Here’s what it says inside:
Dear Jenny,
I bet you can’t even imagine the extraordinary journey that lies ahead for you and this tiny baby. And that you can’t imagine how epic this is going to be! You will feel more than you’ve ever felt before. This is a beginning for you.
I wanted to write you this note to share some thoughts and wishes for you as you begin this journey.
First, please be kind to yourself. You are going to do so many things right, but you will make mistakes, too. Nevertheless, you are here to learn and grow, and this won’t ever stop, so don’t worry about that. The lessons are all gifts to us.
There seems to be a lot of pressure to do everything “right,” but don’t look too far outside because you have everything you need inside of you. You don’t even know it yet. Nor do you have to. The experiences that lie ahead will reveal everything you need to know in time.
This child is coming to you because you already are the perfect mom for her. You don’t have to change who you are. You have all of the qualities that she needs. You’ve been matched. Think about it – of all eight billion souls, she is the one chosen for you. What a pair!
You are going on this journey to learn and grow together. Your baby is tiny, but she is wise. She has so much to teach you. You will be amazed at the things you will learn!
So, my wish is for you to breathe it all in.
This blessing belongs to you.
More than anything, remember that your tiny baby will be watching you. She will know when you’re hard on yourself. She will sense your exhaustion. She will feel it all.
So be good to yourself as much as you can. Show your child how self-love looks. Show her how it feels to embody self-acceptance. Allow her to witness your process one day at a time.
When you wake up in the morning, commit to being softer and kinder to yourself. The words you tell yourself will impact the words your child speaks to herself one day, so choose them wisely.
You don’t have to be perfect; you only have to be you.
Your baby already loves you more than you can imagine. Therefore, she accepts you exactly as you are.
She’s tough, and she’s wise. Learn from her. She will teach you things you could never have imagined. She has an entire curriculum in store for you! First, of course, you will experience heart-bursting love. Then, you will learn how patient and strong you are, as you move through the early sleep-deprived days.
Also, through her, in time, you may see more clearly your insecurities. You will see your vulnerabilities. And you will see them differently, with more tenderness. You will see that welcoming new life is nothing short of a miracle.
You will also witness your strength and resilience. You will see a fierce love come through you that you didn’t know was inside. You will work harder for something than you’ve ever worked before. You will amaze yourself with all that you’re capable of doing,
Your child will bring you closer to yourself. Light will shine on so many things you could never see without her helping you to see them. She’s here to help you grow and move forward in all ways. You will raise her, and she will raise you.
You’re together in this, you and she. Welcome this experience with open arms. Let yourself see it for what it is: a miracle chosen just for you.
Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself often. Enjoy every moment.
So, what did you think?
As you reflect on this letter and the transitions happening in your own life, I invite you to take the next step in your journey of self-discovery.
Her New Lens is a space where we’ll explore how changing the way we see ourselves, our challenges, and the world around us can lead to growth, clarity, and transformation.
Whether you’re navigating a big life change or simply seeking a fresh new beginning, this podcast is here to guide you with practical insights and empowering conversations.
Tune in as we embark on this journey together, uncovering the beauty and wisdom that comes with every transition. Her New Lens launches soon—are you ready to see the world with new eyes?
I hope to see you there!
P.S.: Take a look at these steps and discover more about self-love and how to cultivate it daily. And here are some quotes on motherhood to uplift and inspire you as you bravely move through your days. Learn how accessing your wise woman can give you the confidence you need along the way.
Read about how motherhood has been my greatest teacher.
And learn how to write a love letter to yourself here.
This article also appeared in Her View From Home.
(This story was originally published on May 11, 2021, and has been updated for increased thoroughness and clarity.)
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